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Feb 24, 2011

Kau sanggup nikahi gadis tanpa dara???

Assalamualaikum (^_^)

Entry ni ditulis mengikut kefahaman aku melalui beberapa pembacaan. Kalau ada kesilapan, tolong beritahu dan aku akan betulkan. Korang digalakkan buat research sendiri untuk lebih kepastian. Terima kasih.

[Comel kan kucing ni...macam...aku?? Erkk hehehe]


Wahh macam gempak je introduction aku kan? Hahaha orait guys! aku nak tanya sikit ni..

Kalau korang ni lelaki, korang boleh terima tak kalau bakal isteri korang tu tak ada DARA??
Hmm korang jawab dalam hati jelah ye. Sebab itu hak korang dan aku tak nak tau. Cuma, aku harap, abang2 bujang teruna kat luar sana tu boleh luangkan sedikit masa untuk baca entry ni. Tengs!

Aku tahu benda ni isu sensitif sebab dara ni lambang maruah seorang perempuan. Tapi, kita cuba bercakap dari sudut ilmiah dan kemanusiaan ye.

2 hari lepas, aku baca majalah SOLUSI Isu 28, dan ada satu ruangan iaitu ruangan MUNAKAHAT yang ditulis oleh Ustaz Badli Shah Alaudin membincangkan isu "Nikahi Gadis Tanpa Dara". Dan aku terpanggil untuk berkongsi ilmu ni dengan korang. (^_^)


    [berbaloi keluarkan 9ya tuk sebuah majalah ilmu..:p]


  • Selaput dara ialah satu membran elastik yang nipis terletak di pangkal vagina. Ia boleh terkoyak disebabkan sukan aktif seperti menunggang kuda, gimnastik, memanjat gunung atau lompat tinggi.
  • Selaput dara juga boleh rosak kerana terjatuh, atau kerana keluar aliran haid yang terlalu banyak atau kerana tusukan jari, kayu dan sebagainya.

You ols pernah dengar tak, kalau suami nak tahu isteri tu masih dara atau tak, masa malam pertama kemaluan isteri akan berdarah sikit. Itu tandanya, baru pecah dara dan belum pernah melakukan seks sebelum ni.

Mitos tu salah sama sekali!. Aku pernah baca isu ni dekat majalah Dara.com (tak ingat edisi ke berapa). Tak semestinya kalau kemaluan tak berdarah waktu malam pertama, maka isteri dia dah tak ada dara. Sebab, sebenarnya selaput dara tu dekat dengan pembuluh darah. Bila selaput dara terkoyak and terkena pembuluh darah, itu yang menyebabkan kemaluan si isteri berdarah.

Aku bagi contoh, kes kemaluan tertusuk kayu. Kayu tu akan koyakkan selaput dara dan langgar pembuluh darah, maka kemaluan akan berdarah.

Tapi, bagi kes si isteri tu aktif menunggang kuda dan tanpa sedar aktiviti tu telah menyebabkan kerosakan selaput dara, tapi tak ada objek yang melanggar pembuluh darah tu, maka kemaluan dia tak akan berdarah, menyebabkan dia tak tahu pun dia dah kehilangan dara.

Jadi, memang apa yang kita pernah dengar pasal kejadian malam pertama tu, MITOS jelah kan?? Korang boleh fikir sendiri....(^_^)

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  • Mana2 gadis yang hilang dara angkara berzina tetap berstatus gadis. ini kerana persetubuhan yang berlaku bukanlah persetubuhan yang halal (tanpa akad nikah).

  • Jika gadis itu disetubuhi melalui duburnya, maka statusnya tidak berubah (gadis) kerana persetubuhan tidak berlaku melalui farajnya.

Okay, korang faham kan? Maknanya, semua anak dara itu berstatus gadis tetapi bukan semua gadis itu berstatus anak dara...

Wahai kaum wanita sekalian, ustaz ni pesan, supaya kita menjaga kehormatan diri kita. Sebab, golongan lelaki zaman sekarang masih mementingkan sola keperawanan seorang wanita (walaupun diorang belum tentu TERUNA!). Jika selaput dara belum terkoyak, secara ADATNYA menunjukkan wanita itu masih dara dan belum pernah melakukan seks dengan lelaki. Jaga diri, jaga hati, hiasi peribadi ye sayangku....

Untuk golongan lelaki pula, jangan terlalu kolot dengan menolak mentah2 gadis yang tiada dara. Fahamilah bahawa selaput dara hanyalah satu membran elastik yang sangat nipis dan boleh terkoyak disebabkan sukan yang aktif. Oleh itu, kalau hilang dara disebabkan hal yang bukan disengajakan, jumhur ulama menetapkan bahawa gadis itu masih dalam hukum seorang perawan.

Erti keperawanan sebenar dalam Islam ialah wanita yang terjaga daripada hubungan seks luar nikah sehinggalah dia berkahwin dengan pasangannya.


Persoalannya, berapa ramai je gadis yang masih dara zaman sekarang ni???


Till then, tengs for reading this entry.

Please do correct me if anything wrong yah!

sekian, wassalam...(^_~)




Ilham dari hati : Salah satu cara untuk mendapatkan jodoh yang baik ialah dengan memperbaiki diri. Insya-Allah....

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